HOUSE OF CONTRADICTION
How to be a Better Couple
For those who already has that someone by their side, it is important to know how to make the relationship better. There are many couples out there who does not know how to make the relationship last or make it better.
I am not an expert, but at least these guidelines I got from the net might serve some use in making the relationship better.
10 steps to enjoying each other better...
1. Be realistic about each other.
Don't try to turn your partner into something he or she is not. Let's face it,
guys-there's only one Pamela Anderson in the world, and even she has
had her implants removed! Give your gal a break and understand that her
physical appearance is NOT going to change overnite with the help of a few
facials or treatments. And ladies, Brad Pitt has already been taken, so you're gonna
have to do with what your guy looks like! Chill out, love each other for what u are.
There is more to your partner than what meets the eye.
2. Always talk things out.
Now guys, I know this is not your favourite pastime or mode of resolving issues,
but u know what? This works with the gals. Don't make assumptions
about each other's feelings. Learn to express yourself better so that your partner
understands what you're angry about, or hurt about, or even happy about!
When u stop talking to each other from the heart, it's the beginning of the end.
> 3. Do stuff together.
Make an effort to do things together. Do some sports or involve yourselves in
some shared activities; something both of u enjoy or are interested in. It
could be as simple as watching movies together, or jus strolling
hand-in-hand down Orchard Road. Watch soccer with him once in a while though
the green patch on TV puts you to sleep in 3 seconds. And guys, do give in
if your gal asks for another day at window-shopping, rather than suggest that
she go out with her girlfriends for "that sort of activities" instead. If you're
spending more time with your friends rather than with your partner, it's
a warning sign that you're drifting apart!!!
4. Meet each other halfway.
If he agrees to throw out that rotten T-shirt with the "The Rock" print, you
shouldn't kick up much of a fuss if he asks u to keep your room tidy. There's
gotta be a little giving and taking in a relationship, so learn to meet each other halfway.
5.Show your love
Buy her flowers or candy or perfume every now and then, even if u have
been together for 5years. It's wonderful to continue showing someone that
u care for him or her. Cook him a special meal, paint him a Valentine's Day card.
Knit him mini-socks he can't wear ( like for decoration purposes => ), buy
him a packet of milk for breakfast, or pack his wardrobe for him...so
he knows u can still be romantic and loving despite having been together
for quite a while.
6. Respect each other.
Stop making jokes about her hair or skin, or whatever it is u love to laugh at. Ask
yourself if she thinks if its funny. And if he has an inferiority
complex about his height, stop ogling at tall guys and make him feel worse!
Love is about respecting each other's feelings and being sensitive to each
other at all times.
7. Bury the past.
Stop bringing up the past. Gals... don't bring up the happy things about u
and your ex to your guy, it would jus make him jealous or unhappy. And guys,
don't talk about the happy times that u had with your ex or mention about her
in your every other sentence as it would make your gal feel un-happy and she
might think that u saying all this b'cos u are gonna get back with your ex or
not interested in her anymore.
8. Sit on ur jealousy.
All of us go thru' spells of insecurity at the beginning of the relationship, but don't
translate that insecurity into jealousy. If you're gonna go through your partner's mail and
cupboard, and eavesdropping on conversations, u know something is wrong - with u!!!
Jealousy is like a poison that slowly spreads thru' the relationship before finally
killing it. Trust your partner; love has to have trust in it.
9. Keep your commitments to each other.
If your partner is standing u up all the time and canceling dates and
breaking promises, u need to talk! If you're in a relationship, make your
partner your priority and don't disappoint them if u can help it. It's really
terrible when someone promises to take u to dinner, and then calls to cancel
it. Don't make promises you can't keep. If your partner starts to feel that
he/she is not important enough to u, u may jus lose him/her.
10. Be honest.
Honesty is not scowling at how awful she looks first thing in the morning,
or telling him that he has the biceps of a fly~! When we say "be honest",
we mean expressing your feelings clearly, not being bitingly cruel. When
you're hurt, say so, and when you're angry, tell him/her, w/o getting hysterical.
If u can't be honest with your partner, who can u be honest with? Love is
also about honesty, and a relationship where no honesty exists probably
isn't worth it!